Why the title ‘The Bad Touch’

Purists have often questioned or vent their discontent for the use of the title ‘The Bad Touch’ instead of the correct version of ‘Safe / Unsafe / Confusing Touch’. Let’s get this right: First, when I started writing the book the technical guidelines about Child Sex Abuse still mentioned these concepts as ‘Bad Touch. Good Touch’.                                                                                                   Second, this is a book – a piece of literature. Hence the title The Bad Touch seems more appropriate for its lateral connotation than Safe /Unsafe Touch which sound more clinical. However, in the documented practical guidelines used in the book we have referred  to it as Safe /Unsafe and Confusing touch.         And third, the book and its content has been ratified by Dr Lois Engelbrecht – Founder of the Centre for the Prevention and Treatment of Child Sexual Abuse in the Philippines, Malaysia and Vietnam as well as the team at the NGO Arpan.

So for the sake of argument, yes it might seem incorrect to use The Bad Touch technically. But in the end this is a book and not an official white paper on CSA.  And it deserves a title most suitable which encompasses the essence of the story creatively  rather than adhere strictly to white and black.

However I am game for further debate and discussion on this topic :) One can mail us their suggestions  to authorpayal@gmail.com.

 

How I wrote ‘The Bad Touch’

May 2009 is when I started my research for ‘The Bad Touch’. After several meetings with Harish I got his story in place. And to add weight to the cause of the book I sourced a lot of factual research material from Pooja Taparia (Founder of the NGO Arpan) and her team, Childline 1098 and other credible sources.

After the first manuscript I was asked to add more stories to make the book more complete.  It was very difficult to find true accounts as understandably most survivors would refrain from sharing. However with the help of my network, my husband, a few friends and Harish, I collected some more inspiring stories of Anurag Kashyap, Amrita Purkayastha and other people which helped the Bad Touch evolve.  And of course, renowned author Shobhaa De, who encouraged me and helped the book see light of day in her own way.

Once the manuscript was ready, the tougher battle began – that of finding a publisher. It took me almost two years and over 15 rejections to ultimately find the right publisher for a book this serious. And I must thank my publisher Hayhouse India for believing in the book and taking it on to publish it. The issue of Child Sex Abuse in India has severe dearth of reading material which is readily accessible to people on an offline public domain (unlike Internet). So it was important that The Bad Touch, in the form of a book, should fulfil the gap.

May 2009 is when I started my research for ‘The Bad Touch’. After several meetings with Harish I got his story in place. And to add weight to the cause of the book I sourced a lot of factual research material from Pooja Taparia (Founder of the NGO Arpan) and her team, Childline 1098 and other credible sources.

After the first manuscript I was asked to add more stories to make the book more complete.  It was very difficult to find true accounts as understandably most survivors would refrain from sharing. However with the help of my network, my husband, a few friends and Harish, I collected some more inspiring stories of Anurag Kashyap, Amrita Purkayastha and other people which helped the Bad Touch evolve.  And of course, renowned author Shobhaa De, who encouraged me and helped the book see light of day in her own way.

Once the manuscript was ready, the tougher battle began – that of finding a publisher. It took me almost two years and over 15 rejections to ultimately find the right publisher for a book this serious. And I must thank my publisher Hayhouse India for believing in the book and taking it on to publish it. The issue of Child Sex Abuse in India has severe dearth of reading material which is readily accessible to people on an offline public domain (unlike Internet). So it was important that The Bad Touch, in the form of a book, should fulfill the gap.